The main reason is that so men already identify as bisexual. It's real because they say it is real. Marie-Jones Duff is a Los Angeles based freelance multimedia journalist and frequent traveler with a fondness fr all things bizarre and nerdy. Look for posts that focus on everything from men's fashion to science.
BISEXUALITY IN MARRIED MEN : HOW TO TELL IF MARRIED MEN ARE BISEXUAL
Questioning your sexuality and not entirely sure if you're straight? If you're a man who currently identifies as heterosexual but have found yourself wondering 'Am I bisexual?' you are not alone. But questioning your sexuality can be confusing and difficult time to navigate; largely because there is still a lot of misunderstanding stigma around bisexuality in men. There are many common but harmful myths about bisexuality, including that bisexuals are greedy, promiscuous, more likely to cheat on a partner, confused, or just going through a phase.
Bisexual erasure (where people believe bisexual men don't exist, and that any man who claims to be bi is actually gay and lying about their sexuality) also contributes to the taboo surrounding bisexuality in men, as does biphobia.
So if you're a man think you may be bisexual or you want to explore your sexuality a little more, we look at whet it means to be a bisexual man, how to work out where you sit on the sexuality scale, and what to do if you're keen to experiment.
HOW TO COPE WITH A BISEXUAL MARRIED MEN OR HUSBAND ?
HERE I AM SHARING 4 METHODS TO HANDLE IT!
Being with a bisexual husband can be hard, especially if you entered into the relationship with different expectations. Although learning that your husband is bisexual can shake the foundation of your marriage, it doesn't mean that your marriage is ending. On the contrary, many couples have found that bisexuality has opened the door for a more satisfying, trusting and honest relationship.
METHOD 1 OF 4
a. Accept Your Husband For Who He Is
Your husband has the same qualities that you fell in love with, and his bisexuality is another quality that you may have recently learned about. It also defines who he is. As your partner, he needs your love and support, and your relationship will remain strong if you can accepts him for who he is.
b. Learn About Bisexuality
Knowing more about bisexuality will help you understand your partner. There is no single model for bisexuality, since each individual is different in their emotions and feelings. A bisexual person is sexually attracted to two genders. This individual likely also loves individuals first, often with less attention to specific gender. There are a lot of myths about bisexuality, which can be harmful to your relationship if you don't learn how these myths are just that-myths. Your relationship will strengthen if you understand the true nature of your partner's feelings. Some of these myths are:
i #. Myth: A person is either gay or straight, not both.
Human are complex and can have very different sexual orientations, including heterosexual (attracted to the opposite gender), homosexual (Attracted to the same gender), bisexual (attracted to two or more genders), asexual (not attracted to any gender), pansexual (not limited in sexual choice), or skoliosexual (attraction to non-binary identified individuals).
ii# Myth: Bisexual Can't Be Faithful
People can choose to be monogamous. People's sexual orientation does not determine their ability or desire to be in a monogamous, faithful relationship. The couple decides what it means to be monogamous.
iii. Myth: Bisexuals Have Moe Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
The rate of STDs does not correlate to someone's sexual orientation. Rather, it has to do with the individual's care in protecting themselves from STDs.
c. Give Your Relationship A Fresh Start
Recognize that your relationship has entered into a new phase. If you want the marriage to succeed and continue, you need to be willing to make changes. Your husband is still the same person that you married, but now you know even more about his desires and feelings. Understand that you may need to start fresh, with new boundaries and new expectations about what marriage means for both of you.
d. Talk With Your Husband About What He Wants
Your husband may have been struggling with his bisexuality for a long time. If he is just now telling you, he may have been trying to suppress his true feelings. He knows that you two trust and respect each other. He has taken a big step in being honest with you. Now you can take a big step by talking to him about what he wants. What does he want your marriage to be like? Does he want to have other partners? Does he want to remain monogamous?
METHOD 2 OF 4
COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR PARTNER
a. Know That Communicating About Sexuality Can Be Difficult
Both of you may find it difficult to have a conversation about sexuality. For your husband, this might be the first time he's talked about his bisexuality. He may have been anxious and worried about you finding out, about keeping his feelings a secret, or about what other people will think. As for you, you may undergo worries and anxieties of your own, including feelings or inadequacy, concern about your relationship, or concern for how your family might react.
i. Being patient and understanding with each other is the best starting place for a conversation. Know that you love each other and want each other to be happy.
b. Be Open With Each Other
For your relationship to work, you need to communicate honestly with each other. Set aside time every day or every week when the two of you can talk without being interrupted. Talk about your concerns in an open yet supportive way.
i. This might include asking if and when your husband is making connections with other partners. Being bisexual doesn't mean that your husband will automatically cheat on you. But if he is going to be with other partners, you two should be open about that. Lies and deception are not a good foundation for any marriage.
c. Talk About Where You Stand On Monogamy
When one partner is bisexual, the other partner may worry that the husband will be unfaithful. If your husband wants to be non-monogamous, and you agree to it, then support him in that.
i. Many bisexual partners are in long-term monogamous relationships. Determine what you want for your relationship.
d. Set Boundaries
Determine what you want in your relationship. This may involve setting some ground rules about other partners, or sexual activity that you're both willing to participate in. Are you okay with your husband being with one other partner, or are multiple partners okay? How much do you want to be involved ?
e. Determine What You Both Want To Share With Family And Friends
As you and your husband begin to understand life together in this new phase, you may choose to share some of this information with family and friends. If you have children, think about how you'll talk with them about bisexuality.
i. Remember that when you "come out" to your children, have an ongoing conversation about it so that your kids can ask questions and understand your feelings. Be patient and give them time to process the information.
METHOD 3 OF 4
LIVING EVERYDAY LIFE
a. Realize That You Don't Need To Make Everything About Sexuality
Your lives will still go on, with work pressures, commuting headaches, grocery shopping, and so on. Your everyday life will continue much as it had before your husband told you about his bisexuality.
b. Make Sure Other Areas Of Your Life Are Fun And Interesting
Married life is about more than just sexual intimacy Find hobbies and activities to do together. Travel together. Develop a fulfilling life together in many different ways.
c. Explore Your Own Sexual Desires
An open conversation about your partner's sexuality and sexual desires is a chance to open up about your own sexual desires. Your husband is still attracted to you and wants you to feel free to explore what excites you.
i. Many partners have experienced a sexual awakening when they find out their husbands are bisexual. Their relationships have grown stronger and more satisfying.
METHOD 4 OF 4
a. Visit An LGBT Center For Support
An LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) center is a place where you can get counseling and health information, as well as lists of LGBT-friendly businesses and community resources.
i. Find a local LGBT center by visiting the website for CenterLink: The Community of LGBT Centers.
b. See A Mental Health Professional
A professional who specializes in relationships and sexuality may be able to help you understand your relationship and your partner's feelings. You may be feeling anxiety or other emotions about your relationship, and it can help to have an outside perspective on what you're feeling.
i. If you feel your relationship is in trouble, you might think about seeking couples counseling. There are therapists who specialize in the LGBT community.
c. Talk With A Trusted Family Member Or Friend
You may feel that your sex life in your marriage is a private matter, but it can help to get someone else's perspective on things. Choose someone who will not be judgemental and who will be respectful and trustworthy.
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